So the question has arisen about how brutally honest I have been on the blog and that it seems that I am not over a bunch of issues that I have written about. Well I have taken a bit of time and thought about that very hard for a few days.
Well one the one hand if I am totally honest about my experiences then someone else can learn about what I went through and maybe learn something from it. Then you the reader can also comment on it and then it becomes a sharing experience that more points of view can completely make sense of it. Does that sound confusing? It does when I write it. But some how makes logical sense to do it. It's almost like an idiots guide of what not to do or do in life. Take it in and learn from it.
Then there is the other side of the page where you shouldn't write about such things for it may come back to bite me in the ass. Things about relationships and betrayal and everything else is deeply personal and then people won't look at me the same way and feel sorry for me that I have had a rough year or week.
And then there is the shock value about the subjects I write about as well. Some people made comments that what they read makes them feel uncomfortable and that it's like reading a diary. Well yes it is. This is a sharing diary that we all can participate in. And yes some of the subjects are very personal and are raw. But if we can't talk about it then how do we learn from it?
I guess it all comes down to your comfort level and what you are willing to read or share to help others to experience the life lessons we all go through. If you can watch the Bachelorette or Big Brother on tv which is very voyeuristic then you should be able to read this blog and hopefully take something positive away from it.
Ciao for now
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Double Blog Night
Well this is a rarity when I have to blog something twice in one night. But today wasn't the best day for me.
The phone went off at 4 to wake me and there was a text there already from work telling me of a house fire up in the north east. So I jumped outta bed and got ready and was out the door. On the way there I found out someone took a gas can and tried to light the house on fire. They found the can in the room where the damage was done. When I got there the fire was out and all the fire crews and police were gone. And it was a very dark street and hard to get shots for the station.
Next it was off to the station. And on the way back the truck got a tire low warning indicator on the dash. Not good seeing I just picked it up from the shop the day before and it was in for the same reason.
At the station the show went off without a hitch and I went on break.
Then I got the assignment of going out to Canyon Meadows Golf Course to cover the amateur golf tournament. When I arrived a sixty something lady took me out on the course on a cart and we shot some of the event. I nearly lost my brain matter from the rough areas she took the cart on. I didn't know she liked to go 4x4ing with a cart but we did. And scrambled brain cells was the result. Bring on the head ache.
Next I heard from my mortgage gal and found out that because of my ex's terrible bill paying habits, I have a terrible credit score and even with my parents as co-signers I can't buy a 2 bedroom condo I had my heart set on. And of course because of the amount of the house they cannot buy it even as a rental because they would need twenty percent down under the new law in place for rental properties. That's about double what I have in the bank. My mortgage gal felt so bad for me I could feel it through the phone. She's great.
It hit about 12pm and then the call went out over the scanner. Someone was hit by the C-Train just 2 blocks down the road from the station. A couple of camera guys went down to get the shots and I was sent to get pics for the web to post on the breaking story. When we got there it was pandemonium. Everyone was gawking and craning their necks to get a look at the gruesome scene. Then we all find out it was a five year old child who was with their grandfather on the platform and the kid fell into the train. I won't go into any more detail than that. It was a terrible sight.
Then it was home for a little nap. Where I was texted many times by my ex and told she has entered the kids into 2 camps each and I have to pay the %76 of the cost. And this is because her income from last year was low because she went on part time and didn't make much. So fair is fair I have to make up the difference because I have a career and work and she doesn't.
To top it all off I find out there were over one hundred calls to the fire department because of lightning strikes to buildings and a tornado warning for Calgary.
Has this world gone mad today? There must be a full moon or something going on because I can't wait for the day to be over and the new one to start.
Ciao for now.
The phone went off at 4 to wake me and there was a text there already from work telling me of a house fire up in the north east. So I jumped outta bed and got ready and was out the door. On the way there I found out someone took a gas can and tried to light the house on fire. They found the can in the room where the damage was done. When I got there the fire was out and all the fire crews and police were gone. And it was a very dark street and hard to get shots for the station.
Next it was off to the station. And on the way back the truck got a tire low warning indicator on the dash. Not good seeing I just picked it up from the shop the day before and it was in for the same reason.
At the station the show went off without a hitch and I went on break.
Then I got the assignment of going out to Canyon Meadows Golf Course to cover the amateur golf tournament. When I arrived a sixty something lady took me out on the course on a cart and we shot some of the event. I nearly lost my brain matter from the rough areas she took the cart on. I didn't know she liked to go 4x4ing with a cart but we did. And scrambled brain cells was the result. Bring on the head ache.
Next I heard from my mortgage gal and found out that because of my ex's terrible bill paying habits, I have a terrible credit score and even with my parents as co-signers I can't buy a 2 bedroom condo I had my heart set on. And of course because of the amount of the house they cannot buy it even as a rental because they would need twenty percent down under the new law in place for rental properties. That's about double what I have in the bank. My mortgage gal felt so bad for me I could feel it through the phone. She's great.
It hit about 12pm and then the call went out over the scanner. Someone was hit by the C-Train just 2 blocks down the road from the station. A couple of camera guys went down to get the shots and I was sent to get pics for the web to post on the breaking story. When we got there it was pandemonium. Everyone was gawking and craning their necks to get a look at the gruesome scene. Then we all find out it was a five year old child who was with their grandfather on the platform and the kid fell into the train. I won't go into any more detail than that. It was a terrible sight.
Then it was home for a little nap. Where I was texted many times by my ex and told she has entered the kids into 2 camps each and I have to pay the %76 of the cost. And this is because her income from last year was low because she went on part time and didn't make much. So fair is fair I have to make up the difference because I have a career and work and she doesn't.
To top it all off I find out there were over one hundred calls to the fire department because of lightning strikes to buildings and a tornado warning for Calgary.
Has this world gone mad today? There must be a full moon or something going on because I can't wait for the day to be over and the new one to start.
Ciao for now.
My Sick Friend
I can't believe someone has been doing their homework and read all the posts. I did not expect to have a person ask about someone in one of my blogs at all.
So the question came up about the woman I dated that got very sick. Well I am happy to say she is still battling her illness, but its been a tough time for her.
A few weeks back she was told by her "ologist", dunno which one because there are so many, she had to go for a few operations. YUCK. Not the diagnosis we were all hoping for.
First one was to repair and remove a growth in her intestine. If they couldn't do it with the scope they had to go in and do it.
Luckily the operation went well and she had a few weeks to recover and is back at work. She is still pretty sore and has some of the old symptoms still appearing. It is very hard to look at her when she hurts so much.
So the next move for her I guess is an operation to remove a lump in her neck. It should be rather easy to get to. She of course is nervous about that procedure too. As anyone would be.
So for now she is still doing ok and trying to keep a positive attitude about it all.
She contacted me tonight and were going to get together for a beer tomorrow night. I think she needs to vent and so do I. And I think it's about the same thing. No your wrong. It's about work.
CIao for now.
So the question came up about the woman I dated that got very sick. Well I am happy to say she is still battling her illness, but its been a tough time for her.
A few weeks back she was told by her "ologist", dunno which one because there are so many, she had to go for a few operations. YUCK. Not the diagnosis we were all hoping for.
First one was to repair and remove a growth in her intestine. If they couldn't do it with the scope they had to go in and do it.
Luckily the operation went well and she had a few weeks to recover and is back at work. She is still pretty sore and has some of the old symptoms still appearing. It is very hard to look at her when she hurts so much.
So the next move for her I guess is an operation to remove a lump in her neck. It should be rather easy to get to. She of course is nervous about that procedure too. As anyone would be.
So for now she is still doing ok and trying to keep a positive attitude about it all.
She contacted me tonight and were going to get together for a beer tomorrow night. I think she needs to vent and so do I. And I think it's about the same thing. No your wrong. It's about work.
CIao for now.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Not so Deep Thoughts
I have been single for a while now and thinking to myself the reason why this would be. The answer hasn't come clear to me just yet. I have come to terms with my separation and eventual legal divorce.For an example, if I was still bitter or hurt I would have used all the proper names of the people involved within my last blog. I am over it so lets move on.
Some of the women I know well tell me I am a good looking guy with a fun attitude. That's nice to hear for sure and keep the comments coming because my ego needs it. Not.
And I have some financial stability and getting better every day. This of course is not a big deal for some women because they can look past this bump in the road.
So I guess I am asking why am I single and looking on Plenty of Fish to see what is out there for my options?
Could be because I am competitive. My ex has a guy and I don't have a woman in my life yet.
Could be because I haven't gone to the right website or laundromat and worked my magic with women.
It's not like I am not looking, but some of the alternatives to minimum standards are, not to be rude but I have to, quite sub par. For example it would be nice to meet someone with a full set of teeth instead of them looking like they play goalie for a 1950's hockey team. Another example is when her age doesn't fit mathematically with the age of their first born. And she has six kids.
Can you have such a thing as looking too hard? Are women my age still looking for the bad boy? Are there so many questions around this that one answer just won't fit?
Or has it come down to a singular statement that has been turned into a major film? "She's just not that into you!"
My guess is that the joke about love or on the hunt for love is it's there to have just stop searching and trying too hard and it will come to you if you project to the universe.
Make a list of attributes you require of a significant other. Then as your traveling through out your day re affirm what you have learned and are portraying a significant energy to the heavens and it should come clear what to do.
Ok that's all I got for now.
Bed time.
Ciao for now.
Some of the women I know well tell me I am a good looking guy with a fun attitude. That's nice to hear for sure and keep the comments coming because my ego needs it. Not.
And I have some financial stability and getting better every day. This of course is not a big deal for some women because they can look past this bump in the road.
So I guess I am asking why am I single and looking on Plenty of Fish to see what is out there for my options?
Could be because I am competitive. My ex has a guy and I don't have a woman in my life yet.
Could be because I haven't gone to the right website or laundromat and worked my magic with women.
It's not like I am not looking, but some of the alternatives to minimum standards are, not to be rude but I have to, quite sub par. For example it would be nice to meet someone with a full set of teeth instead of them looking like they play goalie for a 1950's hockey team. Another example is when her age doesn't fit mathematically with the age of their first born. And she has six kids.
Can you have such a thing as looking too hard? Are women my age still looking for the bad boy? Are there so many questions around this that one answer just won't fit?
Or has it come down to a singular statement that has been turned into a major film? "She's just not that into you!"
My guess is that the joke about love or on the hunt for love is it's there to have just stop searching and trying too hard and it will come to you if you project to the universe.
Make a list of attributes you require of a significant other. Then as your traveling through out your day re affirm what you have learned and are portraying a significant energy to the heavens and it should come clear what to do.
Ok that's all I got for now.
Bed time.
Ciao for now.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Unedited story of my seperation !
This has been the hardest story to tell to date. To reveal the ugly truth of what happened to me to get divorced. I sort of feel like I am at a party and a bunch of divorced people are all around trying to top the absolute worst story of how it happened. That has happened to me by the way.And I have no idea why we have a competitive nature about a subject that hurts so much.
So it was last year in January when my ex was working full time as a manager at a local restaurant. She helped open it shortly before and I expected some weird hours.Well there was that indeed and a lot of working at the computer at home and texting going on. I didn't pay much attention to this as I was getting up for work at 4 am and then taking care of the kids when I got home at noon. That's when she would go to work. And then I would put the kids down around 7:30pm. Yup long days.
One day my ex comes home and says she talked to her boss and requested to go to part time without discussing this with me or how that would effect the home income. Yup she did. And later to find out this was to accommodate some cheating hours which she would lie and say she was running errands.
Then the opportunity to do a business trip to Barbados for a week came up and I had to go. And this was in first part of April. And without any argument from her. And no that wouldn't leave her with the kids all that time. A few years previous I agreed to let her ,out of work and money and no ambition to get either, mother move into the basement for free. Yes I'm bitter about that one.
So during that time I was away I later found out she spent a large amount of time with the man, who I was to later find out, was the love of her life. So let's get a good look at this guy. He is a pasty white skinned guy around the same age as me with red hair and glasses. Skinny build and cheesy mustache. Like he is just growing it for the first time. His likes are BBW's, S&M, BDSM, TV/TG/GM, and 27/7 domination. He also likes large rubbery cylindrical ribbed objects inserted in his bottom area while being dominated. Or having it done the old fashioned way by a man while she watched. That's real sharing. If any of these terms are confusing they can be found by just googling the terms. And as for the description of the guy well I got a good look at him in the masturbation video he sent to her. But I am getting ahead of the story.
When I returned she sat me down and said to me that we should take some time alone and live separately and work on our relationship. Cowardly way to say that she has no intention of working on anything and I need to get my crap out and go away.
So I found a place to live for the short term so we can work on us and get to know who we are as individuals, blah, blah,blah, lie ,lie, lie. During this time I had taken the kids every second weekend and on Wednesdays for supper. Plus phone calls and everything.
During one of my visits I had to get a file from the lap top at home. TA DA. The MSN account was open and the email was there. I didn't think of fishing through it until I saw the title of one email called Yes Mistress Kazza. Yup I just said Mistress. That's when I started to fish through the computer to find that she put an ad in Kijiji as a single mother of two looking for fun in January of that year. Then as I went through I found all the emails of men who responded and the pics she sent them. Non nude and then when she warmed up to them they were nude shots. Then the string of emails from this sub who was into objects or persons entering his exit. This included pictures,videos,and letters explaining what the "little bitch" was supposed to do that weekend or he would get s whipping. BTW these are all factual as I still have all the emails, pictures, and videos they sent to each other just in case I might need it later as proof in court.
So this continued for a few months and a trip out to the coast to see him. Which she told me was to see her sister. Then she moved on I later found out to the love of her life #2. Who was just into screwing her and not be seen in public with her. Probably for fear of his wife catching him. Which I heard actually did happen.
Then move into late August and into September. We had been talking about reconciliation and so I decided to take her on a date to the Zoo gala. Great night with a fabulous array of booths for all the taste buds. We had a good time and went home. When we got there she took the dog for a walk while I checked on the kids. When I came down stairs her cell buzzed and lit up as I walked past it. There was a text. From a guy. So I investigated. Earlier in the evening she went to the bathroom and texted Love #2 and asked him "are you horny". And there is where the texting started for that night. I proceeded to drop the phone and walk out. I got into my car and drove off to the place where i was staying. She texted me and joked if I was taking the garbage for a drive(I didn't get the joke either). That's when I texted back "You know what you did". That was the end of the conversation for that evening.
From there on out it had been a constant battle not to do anything physical to her because of the depth of her lies and betrayal. It helped me lose 20lbs in about a month. And I am sure a few more grey hairs.
So from the time I moved out til the official sale of the house I was giving her $2000 a month for the expenses and the kids. Plus her pay. I lived off of $800. That took care of $450 rent. $100 gas. $150 food. Blah,Blah,Blah. She on the other hand managed to rack up all the credit cards and spent $10.5K in two months. And she wasn't paying any bills on time or would send them half. This in turn damaged my credit so bad the bank won't even give me a $500 credit card even though I have now $18K in the same damn bank.
During this time she got my permission to take the kids to Waterloo Ontario to live with the love of her life #3. This was a tough decision for me. But the facts are I don't have family here. They are in Ontario. She would have his family there to help out.The cost of living and public school system is great there. And it's a really nice part of Ontario. I get them for a couple times a year for a weeks stay.
We are now divorced. Or as close as it can be. Just need to have the judge rubber stamp the thing.
That's the whole truth. And was very hard to admit to you the reader. But this is supposed to be therapy and we (you and me) are supposed to open this up for discussion so everyone can learn from this and carry on with life.
I hope this was interesting and helped someone out there that they are not alone.
Ciao for now.
So it was last year in January when my ex was working full time as a manager at a local restaurant. She helped open it shortly before and I expected some weird hours.Well there was that indeed and a lot of working at the computer at home and texting going on. I didn't pay much attention to this as I was getting up for work at 4 am and then taking care of the kids when I got home at noon. That's when she would go to work. And then I would put the kids down around 7:30pm. Yup long days.
One day my ex comes home and says she talked to her boss and requested to go to part time without discussing this with me or how that would effect the home income. Yup she did. And later to find out this was to accommodate some cheating hours which she would lie and say she was running errands.
Then the opportunity to do a business trip to Barbados for a week came up and I had to go. And this was in first part of April. And without any argument from her. And no that wouldn't leave her with the kids all that time. A few years previous I agreed to let her ,out of work and money and no ambition to get either, mother move into the basement for free. Yes I'm bitter about that one.
So during that time I was away I later found out she spent a large amount of time with the man, who I was to later find out, was the love of her life. So let's get a good look at this guy. He is a pasty white skinned guy around the same age as me with red hair and glasses. Skinny build and cheesy mustache. Like he is just growing it for the first time. His likes are BBW's, S&M, BDSM, TV/TG/GM, and 27/7 domination. He also likes large rubbery cylindrical ribbed objects inserted in his bottom area while being dominated. Or having it done the old fashioned way by a man while she watched. That's real sharing. If any of these terms are confusing they can be found by just googling the terms. And as for the description of the guy well I got a good look at him in the masturbation video he sent to her. But I am getting ahead of the story.
When I returned she sat me down and said to me that we should take some time alone and live separately and work on our relationship. Cowardly way to say that she has no intention of working on anything and I need to get my crap out and go away.
So I found a place to live for the short term so we can work on us and get to know who we are as individuals, blah, blah,blah, lie ,lie, lie. During this time I had taken the kids every second weekend and on Wednesdays for supper. Plus phone calls and everything.
During one of my visits I had to get a file from the lap top at home. TA DA. The MSN account was open and the email was there. I didn't think of fishing through it until I saw the title of one email called Yes Mistress Kazza. Yup I just said Mistress. That's when I started to fish through the computer to find that she put an ad in Kijiji as a single mother of two looking for fun in January of that year. Then as I went through I found all the emails of men who responded and the pics she sent them. Non nude and then when she warmed up to them they were nude shots. Then the string of emails from this sub who was into objects or persons entering his exit. This included pictures,videos,and letters explaining what the "little bitch" was supposed to do that weekend or he would get s whipping. BTW these are all factual as I still have all the emails, pictures, and videos they sent to each other just in case I might need it later as proof in court.
So this continued for a few months and a trip out to the coast to see him. Which she told me was to see her sister. Then she moved on I later found out to the love of her life #2. Who was just into screwing her and not be seen in public with her. Probably for fear of his wife catching him. Which I heard actually did happen.
Then move into late August and into September. We had been talking about reconciliation and so I decided to take her on a date to the Zoo gala. Great night with a fabulous array of booths for all the taste buds. We had a good time and went home. When we got there she took the dog for a walk while I checked on the kids. When I came down stairs her cell buzzed and lit up as I walked past it. There was a text. From a guy. So I investigated. Earlier in the evening she went to the bathroom and texted Love #2 and asked him "are you horny". And there is where the texting started for that night. I proceeded to drop the phone and walk out. I got into my car and drove off to the place where i was staying. She texted me and joked if I was taking the garbage for a drive(I didn't get the joke either). That's when I texted back "You know what you did". That was the end of the conversation for that evening.
From there on out it had been a constant battle not to do anything physical to her because of the depth of her lies and betrayal. It helped me lose 20lbs in about a month. And I am sure a few more grey hairs.
So from the time I moved out til the official sale of the house I was giving her $2000 a month for the expenses and the kids. Plus her pay. I lived off of $800. That took care of $450 rent. $100 gas. $150 food. Blah,Blah,Blah. She on the other hand managed to rack up all the credit cards and spent $10.5K in two months. And she wasn't paying any bills on time or would send them half. This in turn damaged my credit so bad the bank won't even give me a $500 credit card even though I have now $18K in the same damn bank.
During this time she got my permission to take the kids to Waterloo Ontario to live with the love of her life #3. This was a tough decision for me. But the facts are I don't have family here. They are in Ontario. She would have his family there to help out.The cost of living and public school system is great there. And it's a really nice part of Ontario. I get them for a couple times a year for a weeks stay.
We are now divorced. Or as close as it can be. Just need to have the judge rubber stamp the thing.
That's the whole truth. And was very hard to admit to you the reader. But this is supposed to be therapy and we (you and me) are supposed to open this up for discussion so everyone can learn from this and carry on with life.
I hope this was interesting and helped someone out there that they are not alone.
Ciao for now.
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Getting It Done
I have been writing the unedited version of what happened to me last year up til now and am almost done. I will post it soon. A lot of stuff to write and its gonna be long I'm afraid.
Ciao for now
Ciao for now
Friday, June 11, 2010
Got your attention !
So the quick and simple ramblings about sex finally generated a comment and I see that some people are reading what little comments I make from time to time. That's great.
I guess sex is a big part of our lives. Men have sexual thoughts every minute about something and I am sure it's the same for women. We can't even look at a banana without that image of a penis flashing into our heads.
Every day we hear friends comment on the looks or "hotness" of others. And I guess that shows our attraction to the little things that we desire in our partner(s). Like the guy who is walking by on the street that has the great hair and rugged features. Some women would like those traits in their partner or dump their current guy for this one.
Guys are the same. Looking at women and enjoying their beauty. Some making more open and suggestive comments than others. Or down right rude uncalled for comments. But still having the attraction to that person.
Of course that is one part of being attracted to that person. Pheromone's are another part which triggers a place in the brain that you can't believe. Ever seen a person at a gathering and thought they might be average in your eyes. And then get close at some time in the event, either chatting with people or whatever. And that person suddenly has something that attracts you to them. That's the hidden killer bullet. Pheromone's.
In college I met Sue from the tv information show "Sex with Sue". It was a phone in show where the callers could ask any question about sex they wanted. She at the time was in her early sixties and had a speaking engagement with the students. She walked up on stage and proceeded to speak. The first thing she said was that she had been approached by women all the time and asked what was the best way to attract a man. There was then a dramatic pause and all the women looked at each other in the room. Then she said she would let them in on the secret and to watch carefully. At that moment this sixty something woman then proceeded to take her hand and tap her crotch and then tap behind both ears like she was putting on perfume. "Pheromone's ladies". And this is from a sexologist.
So where am I going with this? I guess as long as you find something mentally stimulating as well as physically you should be on the right track.
I know your saying "but why should I take advice from a person who couldn't make it work for himself ?". I will just say that take whatever advice you can during your life and use it or don't and be open to what works and doesn't. Is that vague enough for ya?
Stay tuned. I will be writing about the complete and unedited details of of perversion that my ex-wife did to break up with me.
Ciao for now
I guess sex is a big part of our lives. Men have sexual thoughts every minute about something and I am sure it's the same for women. We can't even look at a banana without that image of a penis flashing into our heads.
Every day we hear friends comment on the looks or "hotness" of others. And I guess that shows our attraction to the little things that we desire in our partner(s). Like the guy who is walking by on the street that has the great hair and rugged features. Some women would like those traits in their partner or dump their current guy for this one.
Guys are the same. Looking at women and enjoying their beauty. Some making more open and suggestive comments than others. Or down right rude uncalled for comments. But still having the attraction to that person.
Of course that is one part of being attracted to that person. Pheromone's are another part which triggers a place in the brain that you can't believe. Ever seen a person at a gathering and thought they might be average in your eyes. And then get close at some time in the event, either chatting with people or whatever. And that person suddenly has something that attracts you to them. That's the hidden killer bullet. Pheromone's.
In college I met Sue from the tv information show "Sex with Sue". It was a phone in show where the callers could ask any question about sex they wanted. She at the time was in her early sixties and had a speaking engagement with the students. She walked up on stage and proceeded to speak. The first thing she said was that she had been approached by women all the time and asked what was the best way to attract a man. There was then a dramatic pause and all the women looked at each other in the room. Then she said she would let them in on the secret and to watch carefully. At that moment this sixty something woman then proceeded to take her hand and tap her crotch and then tap behind both ears like she was putting on perfume. "Pheromone's ladies". And this is from a sexologist.
So where am I going with this? I guess as long as you find something mentally stimulating as well as physically you should be on the right track.
I know your saying "but why should I take advice from a person who couldn't make it work for himself ?". I will just say that take whatever advice you can during your life and use it or don't and be open to what works and doesn't. Is that vague enough for ya?
Stay tuned. I will be writing about the complete and unedited details of of perversion that my ex-wife did to break up with me.
Ciao for now
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Sex ! Say no more !
So what are peoples opinions on threesomes or orgies or even the current trends in sex in your city?
This has been a growing trend in the city for a few years now. And there are private clubs popping up where you can have free sex with swingers in your area. And sex toy stores are becoming more popular and inviting. Instead of the gross blacked out store, they are now very open and brightly lit.
Even the bondage stores are inviting and open and the old gross people that used to own such stores have been replaced with well informed and friendly staff. And they are open to any questions you have about products. And the products even come with a guarantee. A friggin' guarantee. Of course it is slightly embarrassing when you have to explain what you were doing when you burned out your toy rabbit.
And also sex parties are starting to be more trendy. Those are the ones that they announce the location the day of through a text list of ticket holders and they all converge on it dressed as wildly, and provocatively as possible. Then as the night goes on the party goers fool around and tease each other til its time to go and then they speed out of the parking lot like the place was being raided by a bunch of skin heads. All rushing to get home and try out their new sex partner they found that night.
So I guess the pressing question is have we put too much emphasis on sex? Or have we become more aware of the different ways we can be aroused and titillated? or have we put too much pressure on ourselves to find different ways to get off? Does anyone still enjoy the old missionary position any more?
So this was kind of a deep thought blog but I would like to know what you think.
Ciao for now
This has been a growing trend in the city for a few years now. And there are private clubs popping up where you can have free sex with swingers in your area. And sex toy stores are becoming more popular and inviting. Instead of the gross blacked out store, they are now very open and brightly lit.
Even the bondage stores are inviting and open and the old gross people that used to own such stores have been replaced with well informed and friendly staff. And they are open to any questions you have about products. And the products even come with a guarantee. A friggin' guarantee. Of course it is slightly embarrassing when you have to explain what you were doing when you burned out your toy rabbit.
And also sex parties are starting to be more trendy. Those are the ones that they announce the location the day of through a text list of ticket holders and they all converge on it dressed as wildly, and provocatively as possible. Then as the night goes on the party goers fool around and tease each other til its time to go and then they speed out of the parking lot like the place was being raided by a bunch of skin heads. All rushing to get home and try out their new sex partner they found that night.
So I guess the pressing question is have we put too much emphasis on sex? Or have we become more aware of the different ways we can be aroused and titillated? or have we put too much pressure on ourselves to find different ways to get off? Does anyone still enjoy the old missionary position any more?
So this was kind of a deep thought blog but I would like to know what you think.
Ciao for now
Monday, June 7, 2010
Dating
Ok so I have been trying dating for a while now and have tried different avenues to go about it. There is dating from your pool of friends.(Not a good idea). Dating from Plenty of Fish or any other dating web site. Or there is always the blind date.
Blind dates. Aren't they fun. It all starts off with someone saying to you "Hey your single right? (THANKS FOR REMINDING ME!)I have the perfect person for you. Wanna meet HIM\HER?" Then if your respect them or their judgement you eventually say yes. Then there is the self questioning that goes along with it. "Is she pretty?" " What if he's an ass?" " Where is the nearest exit by the washroom?". All the things that make us what we are as humans. You know, Crazy. Well at least crazy to our ex's.
Second line of dating which I don't think is a smart way to date is amongst the people you know. UNLESS you know that person has been into you for a while and you know you can make it work or at least if it doesn't still be friends. Otherwise you have messed up a business relationship or friendship. Or even friend of a friendship. Anyway you slice it, if you try this route your taking a big risk at messing something up and maybe your social life for a while.
On the other hand it is a safer way to date because most often you already know the person. Either know them a little or a lot. My recommendation here is to take it slow and don't jump right into bed the first night or even the fifth night. Enjoy each others company and see how much of the relationship is based on sexual urges and how much is on actually wanting to spend time with that person. If it's the first urge then i say "get out now". Don't go to far and mess things up so you will always feel awkward around that person when they are around.
Third option is the web dating. Yes this can be a good way to meet people. But like a Walmart, you have to sort through the bad stuff to see the one or two gems awaiting you there. Yes go on and see what's outside you group of friends or acquaintances. This gets you out there and people can meet you for tea or coffee, or even go out for a lunch date or drinks. Everything is totally up to you and how fast you wanna take it.
Me I have tried all three. Yup I did. Everyone knows it is hard out there. And everyone has their own expectations of what they expect from a date. I find it hard to know what to do that is proper now a days. Do I pay for everything like a gentleman? Go split the bill because you want them to know you respect their individuality? Go straight for the dinner or just drinks the first time? It's a myriad of possibilities. And you don't want to ask too many questions so not to freak the other person out.
What do you think? I am like you and trying to just get by and preying I am not going to make a fool out of myself in this dating world. Step by step this process may get easier.
Well that's my ramblings for tonight. I am exhausted writing this so it probably makes less sense than usual.
Ciao for now
Blind dates. Aren't they fun. It all starts off with someone saying to you "Hey your single right? (THANKS FOR REMINDING ME!)I have the perfect person for you. Wanna meet HIM\HER?" Then if your respect them or their judgement you eventually say yes. Then there is the self questioning that goes along with it. "Is she pretty?" " What if he's an ass?" " Where is the nearest exit by the washroom?". All the things that make us what we are as humans. You know, Crazy. Well at least crazy to our ex's.
Second line of dating which I don't think is a smart way to date is amongst the people you know. UNLESS you know that person has been into you for a while and you know you can make it work or at least if it doesn't still be friends. Otherwise you have messed up a business relationship or friendship. Or even friend of a friendship. Anyway you slice it, if you try this route your taking a big risk at messing something up and maybe your social life for a while.
On the other hand it is a safer way to date because most often you already know the person. Either know them a little or a lot. My recommendation here is to take it slow and don't jump right into bed the first night or even the fifth night. Enjoy each others company and see how much of the relationship is based on sexual urges and how much is on actually wanting to spend time with that person. If it's the first urge then i say "get out now". Don't go to far and mess things up so you will always feel awkward around that person when they are around.
Third option is the web dating. Yes this can be a good way to meet people. But like a Walmart, you have to sort through the bad stuff to see the one or two gems awaiting you there. Yes go on and see what's outside you group of friends or acquaintances. This gets you out there and people can meet you for tea or coffee, or even go out for a lunch date or drinks. Everything is totally up to you and how fast you wanna take it.
Me I have tried all three. Yup I did. Everyone knows it is hard out there. And everyone has their own expectations of what they expect from a date. I find it hard to know what to do that is proper now a days. Do I pay for everything like a gentleman? Go split the bill because you want them to know you respect their individuality? Go straight for the dinner or just drinks the first time? It's a myriad of possibilities. And you don't want to ask too many questions so not to freak the other person out.
What do you think? I am like you and trying to just get by and preying I am not going to make a fool out of myself in this dating world. Step by step this process may get easier.
Well that's my ramblings for tonight. I am exhausted writing this so it probably makes less sense than usual.
Ciao for now
Thursday, June 3, 2010
When Is Enough Just Enough
OK this is a tough story to tell but I will try and do it justice.
Today I was doing the follow up story about an elderly couple who had gone missing last Thursday after a 91st birthday party. So a full week has gone by and nobody had heard from them or knew where they were. The police were searching all over the place and with their helicopter and everything.
Then early at 7am ish we got a report that the couples car was found and so was some unidentified bodies a few kilometers away. Remember the cops have to inform the next of kin before they identify the bodies to the press.
Off we go. In the truck and driving forty kilometers west of Water Valley.. While were getting close to the destination the road turns into a gravel road about four lanes in some places and well maintained for a gravel road. We then came to an immediate stop where the turn off to the site where the car was located. The road we were on went well into the west. Then we turned down the side strip of a road. It was as wide as the truck and in very rough shape and huge puddles and a sheer drop off on the drivers side when going into the bush. The police said the car went seven kilometers into this mess. In spots the truck I was driving only went ten kms because of the ruts and puddles. They were driving an older sedan which would have been terrible bumpy.
In my mind I can't see the reasoning behind ever taking a car this route unless there was a specific reason to do so. It was a one way ticket.
They found the bodies three kms from the vehicle. This makes it all very confusing to some why they would drive that route. But brings into question of what if?
What if they just went for their final drive together into the deep heart of the woods to finish off their lives together. Let me make this clear right now that the examination to this date of writing has not been released yet to the media and from here on out is just speculation.
So my theory is that they had the party. (they didn't clean up anything from the party)And when everyone left they got into their car and just drove as far out into the woods as they could. They spent the night sitting and talking in the car until the gas ran out. And then they took some medication and walked away from the car. And eventually they both dropped. (They were found thirty meters away from each other). This may have been planned for them to be eventually be dragged off by an animal and never seen again by their families. Which may be because they didn't want to live in pain and they didn't want to be a burdon to their families.
I know it's too early to speculate but that is my theory.
So is it right to give those the choice to take their own lives if their suffering greatly outweighs the alternative?
Tough discussion.
That's it for me
Ciao for now
Today I was doing the follow up story about an elderly couple who had gone missing last Thursday after a 91st birthday party. So a full week has gone by and nobody had heard from them or knew where they were. The police were searching all over the place and with their helicopter and everything.
Then early at 7am ish we got a report that the couples car was found and so was some unidentified bodies a few kilometers away. Remember the cops have to inform the next of kin before they identify the bodies to the press.
Off we go. In the truck and driving forty kilometers west of Water Valley.. While were getting close to the destination the road turns into a gravel road about four lanes in some places and well maintained for a gravel road. We then came to an immediate stop where the turn off to the site where the car was located. The road we were on went well into the west. Then we turned down the side strip of a road. It was as wide as the truck and in very rough shape and huge puddles and a sheer drop off on the drivers side when going into the bush. The police said the car went seven kilometers into this mess. In spots the truck I was driving only went ten kms because of the ruts and puddles. They were driving an older sedan which would have been terrible bumpy.
In my mind I can't see the reasoning behind ever taking a car this route unless there was a specific reason to do so. It was a one way ticket.
They found the bodies three kms from the vehicle. This makes it all very confusing to some why they would drive that route. But brings into question of what if?
What if they just went for their final drive together into the deep heart of the woods to finish off their lives together. Let me make this clear right now that the examination to this date of writing has not been released yet to the media and from here on out is just speculation.
So my theory is that they had the party. (they didn't clean up anything from the party)And when everyone left they got into their car and just drove as far out into the woods as they could. They spent the night sitting and talking in the car until the gas ran out. And then they took some medication and walked away from the car. And eventually they both dropped. (They were found thirty meters away from each other). This may have been planned for them to be eventually be dragged off by an animal and never seen again by their families. Which may be because they didn't want to live in pain and they didn't want to be a burdon to their families.
I know it's too early to speculate but that is my theory.
So is it right to give those the choice to take their own lives if their suffering greatly outweighs the alternative?
Tough discussion.
That's it for me
Ciao for now
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