How Quickly a Life Can Change

I have been thinking long and hard about a close friend who has been going through a very rough and stressful time right now.

She is usually a strong and vibrant person who can handle anything. And from the outside looks like she has all her shit together. And recently found out she was pregnant and was very happy to share the news with everyone.

Well the worst of all things happened and she started to bleed, and throughout the day eventually lost the poor little life that was growing inside her.

This brings about some questions that have been racing through my head. Yes even I have periods of deep thought and contemplation.

So why is it when you have a very happy event happen in your life, does the opposite reaction have to happen to even out the "ying and yang" in our lives? Why can't happy things happen over and over? It seems like that is very unfair to have to have this balance in our lives. We deserve more like %80 positive and %20 negative so we can feel like were getting ahead in life.

Is this too much to ask? Is that greedy of us to want to have more positive than negative? Does this have to do with some "Secret" that we don't know about like in the movie with the same title? I don't know about you but I tried to apply the thoughts and ideas in that movie and that didn't help at all. In fact that's when the worst of the stuff in my life happened.(You will have to read way back to older posts to see what that was)

So in this even 50/50,"ying & yang" theory my friend then has to have an amazing bit of good luck coming to her that should last her til she reaches 80 years old. Right? Because one of the worst experiences in our adult lives has to be losing a child.

Which brings me to my last point. I have been trying to think of something to say to her that means that my heart goes out to her and that I understand the pain she is going through. And to express that all needs something more. Something that has a bigger and deeper emphasis on how important it is that she understands I am here along with everyone else to help her through this dark period.

But all I can think of is "sorry". A word that has a simple meaning and doesn't really have much punch or pizazz to it. It is sort of an indifferent word to me that doesn't have the deep meaning that needs to be conveyed. But I guess it has to do for now.

While she is going through this very dark day, I am sure all her friends and family hope she has good health and gets the peace and rest she needs to get through this hard time. I know we are all sending her our best wishes.

Ciao for now

Dating - Crazies need not apply!

Ok so now your single and looking to see what other options are out there for you. You do the Plenty of Fish thing. Maybe E Harmony or maybe even try to connect to the alternative lifestyles of Fetlife.com.

But what is the first thing that runs through your head as soon as you meet that person?

Hey he/she has a nice ass? They are so pretty? Am I attractive enough for them? Can I do better than this?

No I think the first thing you think about after a relationship/divorce is very primal and simple.

Is this person in any way shape or form like my ex? I will drive this car straight into a wall if they remind me of him/her.

Well welcome to your nightmare.

Finding similarities in people that you date with that of your ex is gonna happen and you have to learn to accept that. And as long as it isn't anything like bodily harm (unless asked for...wink wink) the little things shouldn't matter.

Then there is the extreme. The major things that made the relationship collapse in the first place need to be closely looked at and determined if they will blow up in your face again.

Here is an example. If your at his/her place and you see a stack of unopened mail. That's an indication that person may have some issues with paying bills.

If they have a fridge or bathroom that is filthy then maybe we have some issues that may require penicillin. Which means be very careful health wise with this person. Ya don't want bedbugs in your rug. Ya got the message?

Is there an unwillingness from them to pay once in a while for things you do? That may be an indication of being cheap and not feeling that your not worth paying for dinner/movie or some other things.

I guess I could go on but you get the point.

So what do ya do? Just suck it up. People will be the same and you will find traits that are similar from your ex. That's human nature.

Just try to avoid stabbing them with an ice pick in the soft part of their skull right on the top and stirring it like your whisking an omlette when you find those traits.

Ciao for now.

I am BACK!!!!!!!

Ever have a time in your life where you just feel overwhelmed and you feel so lethargic ya just want to sit on the couch,eat fig newtons,masturbate and watch tv? Ok the masturbate thing was a joke. But you know? Just let me do my job and get some rest after feeling? Yeah I have been dealing with that and let this blog thing go way to long.

Ok back on the horse kick my ass in gear and back out there with interesting topics that may be help,hindrance, or even make someone laugh about.

So on that note. Leave me a comment about what you would like to see in upcoming articles in this blog and I will try and get to all of them.

Ciao for now