Ok so I have been trying dating for a while now and have tried different avenues to go about it. There is dating from your pool of friends.(Not a good idea). Dating from Plenty of Fish or any other dating web site. Or there is always the blind date.
Blind dates. Aren't they fun. It all starts off with someone saying to you "Hey your single right? (THANKS FOR REMINDING ME!)I have the perfect person for you. Wanna meet HIM\HER?" Then if your respect them or their judgement you eventually say yes. Then there is the self questioning that goes along with it. "Is she pretty?" " What if he's an ass?" " Where is the nearest exit by the washroom?". All the things that make us what we are as humans. You know, Crazy. Well at least crazy to our ex's.
Second line of dating which I don't think is a smart way to date is amongst the people you know. UNLESS you know that person has been into you for a while and you know you can make it work or at least if it doesn't still be friends. Otherwise you have messed up a business relationship or friendship. Or even friend of a friendship. Anyway you slice it, if you try this route your taking a big risk at messing something up and maybe your social life for a while.
On the other hand it is a safer way to date because most often you already know the person. Either know them a little or a lot. My recommendation here is to take it slow and don't jump right into bed the first night or even the fifth night. Enjoy each others company and see how much of the relationship is based on sexual urges and how much is on actually wanting to spend time with that person. If it's the first urge then i say "get out now". Don't go to far and mess things up so you will always feel awkward around that person when they are around.
Third option is the web dating. Yes this can be a good way to meet people. But like a Walmart, you have to sort through the bad stuff to see the one or two gems awaiting you there. Yes go on and see what's outside you group of friends or acquaintances. This gets you out there and people can meet you for tea or coffee, or even go out for a lunch date or drinks. Everything is totally up to you and how fast you wanna take it.
Me I have tried all three. Yup I did. Everyone knows it is hard out there. And everyone has their own expectations of what they expect from a date. I find it hard to know what to do that is proper now a days. Do I pay for everything like a gentleman? Go split the bill because you want them to know you respect their individuality? Go straight for the dinner or just drinks the first time? It's a myriad of possibilities. And you don't want to ask too many questions so not to freak the other person out.
What do you think? I am like you and trying to just get by and preying I am not going to make a fool out of myself in this dating world. Step by step this process may get easier.
Well that's my ramblings for tonight. I am exhausted writing this so it probably makes less sense than usual.
Ciao for now
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Monday, June 7, 2010
Thursday, June 3, 2010
When Is Enough Just Enough
OK this is a tough story to tell but I will try and do it justice.
Today I was doing the follow up story about an elderly couple who had gone missing last Thursday after a 91st birthday party. So a full week has gone by and nobody had heard from them or knew where they were. The police were searching all over the place and with their helicopter and everything.
Then early at 7am ish we got a report that the couples car was found and so was some unidentified bodies a few kilometers away. Remember the cops have to inform the next of kin before they identify the bodies to the press.
Off we go. In the truck and driving forty kilometers west of Water Valley.. While were getting close to the destination the road turns into a gravel road about four lanes in some places and well maintained for a gravel road. We then came to an immediate stop where the turn off to the site where the car was located. The road we were on went well into the west. Then we turned down the side strip of a road. It was as wide as the truck and in very rough shape and huge puddles and a sheer drop off on the drivers side when going into the bush. The police said the car went seven kilometers into this mess. In spots the truck I was driving only went ten kms because of the ruts and puddles. They were driving an older sedan which would have been terrible bumpy.
In my mind I can't see the reasoning behind ever taking a car this route unless there was a specific reason to do so. It was a one way ticket.
They found the bodies three kms from the vehicle. This makes it all very confusing to some why they would drive that route. But brings into question of what if?
What if they just went for their final drive together into the deep heart of the woods to finish off their lives together. Let me make this clear right now that the examination to this date of writing has not been released yet to the media and from here on out is just speculation.
So my theory is that they had the party. (they didn't clean up anything from the party)And when everyone left they got into their car and just drove as far out into the woods as they could. They spent the night sitting and talking in the car until the gas ran out. And then they took some medication and walked away from the car. And eventually they both dropped. (They were found thirty meters away from each other). This may have been planned for them to be eventually be dragged off by an animal and never seen again by their families. Which may be because they didn't want to live in pain and they didn't want to be a burdon to their families.
I know it's too early to speculate but that is my theory.
So is it right to give those the choice to take their own lives if their suffering greatly outweighs the alternative?
Tough discussion.
That's it for me
Ciao for now
Today I was doing the follow up story about an elderly couple who had gone missing last Thursday after a 91st birthday party. So a full week has gone by and nobody had heard from them or knew where they were. The police were searching all over the place and with their helicopter and everything.
Then early at 7am ish we got a report that the couples car was found and so was some unidentified bodies a few kilometers away. Remember the cops have to inform the next of kin before they identify the bodies to the press.
Off we go. In the truck and driving forty kilometers west of Water Valley.. While were getting close to the destination the road turns into a gravel road about four lanes in some places and well maintained for a gravel road. We then came to an immediate stop where the turn off to the site where the car was located. The road we were on went well into the west. Then we turned down the side strip of a road. It was as wide as the truck and in very rough shape and huge puddles and a sheer drop off on the drivers side when going into the bush. The police said the car went seven kilometers into this mess. In spots the truck I was driving only went ten kms because of the ruts and puddles. They were driving an older sedan which would have been terrible bumpy.
In my mind I can't see the reasoning behind ever taking a car this route unless there was a specific reason to do so. It was a one way ticket.
They found the bodies three kms from the vehicle. This makes it all very confusing to some why they would drive that route. But brings into question of what if?
What if they just went for their final drive together into the deep heart of the woods to finish off their lives together. Let me make this clear right now that the examination to this date of writing has not been released yet to the media and from here on out is just speculation.
So my theory is that they had the party. (they didn't clean up anything from the party)And when everyone left they got into their car and just drove as far out into the woods as they could. They spent the night sitting and talking in the car until the gas ran out. And then they took some medication and walked away from the car. And eventually they both dropped. (They were found thirty meters away from each other). This may have been planned for them to be eventually be dragged off by an animal and never seen again by their families. Which may be because they didn't want to live in pain and they didn't want to be a burdon to their families.
I know it's too early to speculate but that is my theory.
So is it right to give those the choice to take their own lives if their suffering greatly outweighs the alternative?
Tough discussion.
That's it for me
Ciao for now
Monday, May 17, 2010
The Kissing Date
Up to now things have been going well with the new woman that has come into my life. Were talking and texting. But not too much. Ya know the type that text and call too much and by the end of the week she's moving into your place?
Well This weekend was a good start of things to come. We decided to go to grab a bite to eat then she wanted to see Iron Man 2(I couldn't believe it either). And then a trip out to Cochrane to watch a friend of mine perform at a red neck bar. Side note to this. He's black and this is a red neck bar with young wiggers pretending to be something they are not and the occasional skin head. Did I mention my friend is black? So as you can see some nights could be very interesting indeed.
At this point we talk and smile and have a good time. We haven't held hands or kissed. Just hugged at the end of the one date. I am trying this approach to make sure I don't go to fast for her and myself and to respect her as well. I'm not gonna jump all over her the first chance and turn her off. So innocent approach it is.
The bite and the movie were great. We both had a great time. Then this was the part she took the risk on and allowed me to drive her out to Cochrane. For a single woman it is a risk especially when she knows me but not to the point where she should take great risks. I could have easily driven her out to the country and, well you have an imagination.
So the trust factor is there and she comes along to the bar. And when we get there a hand full of townies are in the bar and my friend and the band started the first set. We sit down with my friends girl and the drummers squeeze. Introductions are made and we have a listen to the band. At this moment something truly out of the annals of the memory banks from when I was single pops out. "Well that's a nice ring you got there." While grabbing her hand and observing a fun piece of jewelry on her hand. And I noticed a smile come across her face and she said its a favorite ring of hers. Then I felt a little squeeze and that was it. That simply was when the hand holding started. At that moment she was looking at our hands and then looked up at me and we looked at each other for a moment. Now in nano seconds I imagined every possible scenario of what may happen if I go for the kiss. That includes getting a drink in my lap and a slap across the face and many combinations of the same humiliation. I thought about it. What the hell I thought. I went for it. BINGO> As I was getting close I noticed her eyes start to close and that was the sign I was waiting for and I completed the hard hurdle from friends to a date. Soft and subtle she kissed me back and DING DING DING she actually enjoyed it.
Don't get me wrong here. I have kissed some women while in the first year of my separation, but this was different some how. I respect her as a woman and fellow person in the media realm. I don't want to go to fast and ruin anything that could pop up(insert joke here).
So first base completed and were holding hands. Great start and farther than we went before. And she seems to be comforted at the fact the awkwardness is now gone at when the kiss would come, or is the person a good kisser? And all I can do is beam with how smoothly that went.
A couple of hours later and were still holding hands and she is ready to leave so she can get a fresh start on the next day. And I am pretty beat myself from the weeks work. So we say our goodbye's to everyone and head out. At this point I am happy that everything has gone so smoothly and just have the ride home and to drop her off at her home.
I pull up at her house and put the car in park. Before I am ready she is right there in my face and were kissing again. This time longer and more of it. I am amazed and delighted that she is receptive to it all. And at the end of a nice session of kissing were both feeling like teenagers and we say our good nights and she get out of the car and goes to her door. Of course I wait and watch and make sure she gets inside alright.
All in all a major success. Home run. Bisket in the basket. In the top shelf where your momma hides the cookies. Our team gave one hundred and ten percent. On and on the saying go.
No major problems and everything went disturbingly well. What the hell?
On the way home I am recalling everything from the evening and thoughts are flashing through my head like crazy. Why was it so smooth? What was I doing right? How come something didn't go wrong? Does this sound familiar to you?
We will part ways at this point til I can figure this one out. I am happy everything went good but like others I wonder why it was so easy and why hadn't it been like that for all the other dates in my life.
Til next time. I might have something more interesting than that for you.
Well This weekend was a good start of things to come. We decided to go to grab a bite to eat then she wanted to see Iron Man 2(I couldn't believe it either). And then a trip out to Cochrane to watch a friend of mine perform at a red neck bar. Side note to this. He's black and this is a red neck bar with young wiggers pretending to be something they are not and the occasional skin head. Did I mention my friend is black? So as you can see some nights could be very interesting indeed.
At this point we talk and smile and have a good time. We haven't held hands or kissed. Just hugged at the end of the one date. I am trying this approach to make sure I don't go to fast for her and myself and to respect her as well. I'm not gonna jump all over her the first chance and turn her off. So innocent approach it is.
The bite and the movie were great. We both had a great time. Then this was the part she took the risk on and allowed me to drive her out to Cochrane. For a single woman it is a risk especially when she knows me but not to the point where she should take great risks. I could have easily driven her out to the country and, well you have an imagination.
So the trust factor is there and she comes along to the bar. And when we get there a hand full of townies are in the bar and my friend and the band started the first set. We sit down with my friends girl and the drummers squeeze. Introductions are made and we have a listen to the band. At this moment something truly out of the annals of the memory banks from when I was single pops out. "Well that's a nice ring you got there." While grabbing her hand and observing a fun piece of jewelry on her hand. And I noticed a smile come across her face and she said its a favorite ring of hers. Then I felt a little squeeze and that was it. That simply was when the hand holding started. At that moment she was looking at our hands and then looked up at me and we looked at each other for a moment. Now in nano seconds I imagined every possible scenario of what may happen if I go for the kiss. That includes getting a drink in my lap and a slap across the face and many combinations of the same humiliation. I thought about it. What the hell I thought. I went for it. BINGO> As I was getting close I noticed her eyes start to close and that was the sign I was waiting for and I completed the hard hurdle from friends to a date. Soft and subtle she kissed me back and DING DING DING she actually enjoyed it.
Don't get me wrong here. I have kissed some women while in the first year of my separation, but this was different some how. I respect her as a woman and fellow person in the media realm. I don't want to go to fast and ruin anything that could pop up(insert joke here).
So first base completed and were holding hands. Great start and farther than we went before. And she seems to be comforted at the fact the awkwardness is now gone at when the kiss would come, or is the person a good kisser? And all I can do is beam with how smoothly that went.
A couple of hours later and were still holding hands and she is ready to leave so she can get a fresh start on the next day. And I am pretty beat myself from the weeks work. So we say our goodbye's to everyone and head out. At this point I am happy that everything has gone so smoothly and just have the ride home and to drop her off at her home.
I pull up at her house and put the car in park. Before I am ready she is right there in my face and were kissing again. This time longer and more of it. I am amazed and delighted that she is receptive to it all. And at the end of a nice session of kissing were both feeling like teenagers and we say our good nights and she get out of the car and goes to her door. Of course I wait and watch and make sure she gets inside alright.
All in all a major success. Home run. Bisket in the basket. In the top shelf where your momma hides the cookies. Our team gave one hundred and ten percent. On and on the saying go.
No major problems and everything went disturbingly well. What the hell?
On the way home I am recalling everything from the evening and thoughts are flashing through my head like crazy. Why was it so smooth? What was I doing right? How come something didn't go wrong? Does this sound familiar to you?
We will part ways at this point til I can figure this one out. I am happy everything went good but like others I wonder why it was so easy and why hadn't it been like that for all the other dates in my life.
Til next time. I might have something more interesting than that for you.
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