I have been single for a while now and thinking to myself the reason why this would be. The answer hasn't come clear to me just yet. I have come to terms with my separation and eventual legal divorce.For an example, if I was still bitter or hurt I would have used all the proper names of the people involved within my last blog. I am over it so lets move on.
Some of the women I know well tell me I am a good looking guy with a fun attitude. That's nice to hear for sure and keep the comments coming because my ego needs it. Not.
And I have some financial stability and getting better every day. This of course is not a big deal for some women because they can look past this bump in the road.
So I guess I am asking why am I single and looking on Plenty of Fish to see what is out there for my options?
Could be because I am competitive. My ex has a guy and I don't have a woman in my life yet.
Could be because I haven't gone to the right website or laundromat and worked my magic with women.
It's not like I am not looking, but some of the alternatives to minimum standards are, not to be rude but I have to, quite sub par. For example it would be nice to meet someone with a full set of teeth instead of them looking like they play goalie for a 1950's hockey team. Another example is when her age doesn't fit mathematically with the age of their first born. And she has six kids.
Can you have such a thing as looking too hard? Are women my age still looking for the bad boy? Are there so many questions around this that one answer just won't fit?
Or has it come down to a singular statement that has been turned into a major film? "She's just not that into you!"
My guess is that the joke about love or on the hunt for love is it's there to have just stop searching and trying too hard and it will come to you if you project to the universe.
Make a list of attributes you require of a significant other. Then as your traveling through out your day re affirm what you have learned and are portraying a significant energy to the heavens and it should come clear what to do.
Ok that's all I got for now.
Bed time.
Ciao for now.
Hello again. Right now it seems that there aren't that many mister or miss rights out there no matter where you are. I also think that sometimes our list of requirements can be a tad bit off the mark, our expectations a bit high. But we want what we want right? I've gone the online route myself and while I've made a couple of friends, there haven't been any fireworks. I think if you're going to go the online route you should go to a site where the people have to be invested in finding the right person. Plenty of fish is OK but it seems a lot of the weirder people go to the free sites. I have to tell you that it's nice to hear someone from a bigger area having the same issues as those of us in towns of 5000..LOL
ReplyDeleteI like my men tall and skinny as witnessed when I dated Sean D at SFDCI. The tall and skinny thing never left. I also like them a bit on the bad side but only in the way that they're misunderstood. I like a man that gets his hands dirty, no lawyers or accountants for me. I also like them younger, around 30 or thereabouts, I'm 40 but have the mind of a 25 year old. I could go on and on but the above list will be difficult enough around here. I don't drink either so in a small town it's next to impossible to find a non-drinker. I guess all that is why I'm still single.
I am curious though as to what happened with that woman you were with that wasn't well, or the one that you met at the shoot and dated for a bit after? See, someone does pay attention to what you say..LOL
I think it is "Murphy's Law" that you won't find "the one" when you are trying so hard. That special someone will come into your life when it is meant to be. When you do connect with that special someone, be completely honest and follow your heart. Fate will take it's course from there. Don't let your past experience with your ex sabotage your new relatonship.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we discover that the person we have been looking for has been right there in front of us the whole time.
Personally.. I am not a fan of online dating. I have a lot of friends that have tried it and have heard many horror stories. It also seems that people get addicted to the online sites and when they finally meet someone special, they don't stop looking online. Perhaps it's some strange curiosity, or insecurity or maybe an ego thing???
I was dating someone that I cared deeply for. Sadly I discovered this person had several active online dating profiles. The excuse was that it was completely innocent and it meant nothing. Obviously I wasn't good enough for that person. It broke my heart.
Sounds like you are trying to find a relationship because you don't want to be alone. It is better to be alone then to be with someone that doesn't make you happy.
Don't settle for anything less than you feel you deserve. As far as being single goes... enjoy life! When you find complete happiness with yourself, everythig else will fall into place.
I appreciate the comments from you both and will continue to update you on the story of my sick friend and the other one.
ReplyDeleteYes keeping a positive outlook on dating is a big key to it. Also not trying to hard. That only frustrates you while waiting for it to happen.
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The trouble with online dating is you can be anyone behind the monitor, but reality is often different. The games that people engage in can be mind boggling. I don't understand why you can't just be who you are and be that person!!!! When Big Red and I met, he was SURE there were strings attached...the reality was, I was a grown woman, with a life and a set of morals and what he saw was what he got. No games, no lies and no bullshit. Unfortunately, I can't say that for many of the people I had the unfortunate pleasure of dating during the single parent years. Men had a hate on for women, and the women were in it for all they could get, fueling the hate the men had. It's a never ending circle. Get your friends to set you up...they have a way better sense of a person than the computer does. POF is filled with NUT JOBS!
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