My Last Post

The Child Support topic from the last post got a lot of attention. So I want to leave it for now and let people comment and learn from each other one more day. Thanks for those who gave feedback.

To Pay Or Not To Pay ?

More and more over the last year and a half I have been hearing from women and their experiences with men who won't pay child support when they divorce. And lately I have been hearing it more frequently. Is this an epidemic of assholes out there? Have they found some kind of loophole that I am not aware of? Not that I wouldn't pay. It is only hurting the kids. Right?

In all separation and eventually divorce agreements both parties agree to certain terms and the government has the amount the spouse has to pay all down in a convenient little pamphlet that was handed to me when I entered the process of separation.

So how do these douche bags get out of paying? Maybe because they weren't really men to begin with and are terrible fathers. They don't see how it can hurt the spouse looking for the money to pay for the necessities of everyday living. Same amount as when they were a couple together but just in one or two lump sums per month.

Ok so I will spell it out for you about why they won't pay from a mans perspective without holding back. Turn off NCIS and put the phone on silent and read with the hope you can understand the guys mindset.

1. He's a Super Douche and makes a lot of money and doesn't want to pay a dime because he spent a shitload of money fighting every point during the divorce and wants to lash back. No matter how many parenting after separation courses he takes this D-bag will deny cash to hurt everyone so they hope they feel the pain he went through during the divorce. He also likes the feeling of being in control of the situation and enjoys the frustration it brings his ex. Also this man won't take the kid/s when he's supposed to.

2. He's a Tres Douche and makes a good living and pays a little here and a little there. This sort has a little bit of a conscience about his kids and wants to see them. He makes up stories about his work and the amount he makes and makes a big deal about all the bills he has to pay. He also doesn't want his parents and siblings think he's a douche so he continues the story to them. He may need some legal persuasion from time to time but he will pay up when he can. P.S. he will always hide money from you and try to get out of payments from time to time. He won't change. He will take the kid/s when it fits his work schedule.

3. This is your average D-bag. He will pay but not on time ever and your continually chasing after him. This is because he like the attention from his ex and every time he talks or texts her he still feels like he's a part of her life. This guy can't let go and will be a challenge to get any peace with him. RESTRAINING ORDER!

So I hope you got a touch of insight into the brain of the many stages of Douche-dome.

Ciao for Now

Porn! Now I Got Your Attention

So porn is everywhere and anywhere you want to get it. From the standard video tape or DVD to the internet on your computer,or if you have more urges than others, your cell phone is just as handy.

So how much is too much? Or is there never enough?

It's everywhere clearly. We buy and sell products based on sex and sexuality. Like ya don't know that one.

Lets look at that. Would you buy AXE body spray if an average guy on the commercials wasn't being mobbed by hot women? Or would you buy the perfume if you could get the hunky half dressed man like in the magazines? And why do they always look so tired in those pictures? Lying on each other or on horses lying down on them. Or even lying on the sand. That just makes me itchy looking at the picture.

Would the same sales technique work for products like Coke or Hershey's? Like imagine a couple is rolling around on the beach in the surf and you see a close up of them kissing and he reaches up and drinks a coke. Sexy? Yeah... no.

So I guess the question then comes down to, does sex define you? Who you are and what you buy and every aspect of your life? Do we see so much sexuality and images in our day to day lifestyle that sex becomes harder. Like trying to live up to the fantasies made up in your own mind or by media.

My final question is, if sex is already complicated now how will our kids feel when newer and crazier influences will be front and center in their lives. Will it be too much pressure on them to be the perfect lovers?

Ok you let me know when you can solve some of these pressing questions. And I will do the same for you.

Ciao for Now

New Beginnings

So I have taken some time out from blogging getting my life back to some semblance of order out of the chaos of the last year and a bit. Now is the time to start new.

It is quite a mind bending experience going through a separation and divorce. You think about everything that had gone wrong and what you could have done more to make it work.

The conclusion I have made out of all of this is you can make all the effort you want but if one of you in the relationship isn't giving their full effort than it is doomed for failure.

Also you as an individual try to place the blame on the other person. You think you did all that you could and the other person didn't make an effort. Took the easy way out. And all the other excuses you can think of.

Then you actually go through the thought process about all the things you did wrong and how you were the failure in the relationship. And that takes some time to get through those thoughts.

Like it or hate it both of you screwed it up. One could have done worse that the other sure. But it's how you got to that spot in the first place.

Once all that has been computed then your ready to start your life again. It has to be one of the worst trips through your own being one can take.

I believe if you hadn't taken this trip through your brain and continue on like nothing wrong ever happened then you haven't learned anything and every relationship after that will be doomed to fail.

Yeah this is just my thoughts but I hope they helped.

Ciao for Now

I'm Back

So this is it. I am back online for now.So lets tell the story of how I got back online.

I called our local Internet provider and got a lovely lady service representative. At that time she asked every question under the sun and tried to up sell every service they offer. Good on her. That's her job right? After all the questions she tells me she will have a service dude come out and install everything and that will be it. Right? As you guessed it because I am writing about it. No. it always has to be more complicated.

A few days later I get a call from this same representative from the local internet dudes again. Strange yes. And she asked a few more questions about this and that and then we said our goodbye's. For those who haven't had this happen to you take note and be wary of it happening to you.

Now I expected this to take a few days to get a ring back for the appointment. I didn't realize I had to wait a week. Yes a week. I still didn't get a call. I called them. You know this isn't good at all.

I get this nice guy on the phone and ask him where my courtesy phone call was for the technician to come and grace me with the internet service. There was silence on the other end. I could hear very faintly the sound of vigorous fingers typing on a keyboard.I'm thinking "shit, what now".

He finally says " It appears that they didn't put the work order in to get your services". WHAT? Can you believe the nerve of that woman! She took all my information and didn't get the work order in? Isn't that her job? And this being Calgary I am sure she gets asked 100 times a day for these services.

Well that is yet another example how we in Calgary experience bad service and are expected to put up with it. From waiters or waitresses through to people in your own work maybe. Service is lacking here and we just allow it to happen.

I say if they are in a business that involves service then don't tip or tell their immediate supervisor and get them in shit. Why should you let anyone else suffer the same shitty service as you. If they didn't take the time to give you the service you deserve than fuck'em. They don't deserve to work at that job.

That's my two cents.

Ciao for now

OFFLINE

I will be offline and trying to get back when I get internet in my new residence. I will try and post stuff as soon as I can for you all.

Ciao for Now

Being a Camera Guy

So because I was asked so nicely, I am writing this post about being a camera guy for Breakfast Television in Calgary. The highs and the lows.

So I wake up every week day at 4 am and get my ass to work for 4:30. There We get prepared for that days show.. Depending on the show, there might be more or less work.

Some days we get in stars that come through Calgary doing comedy acts at local clubs or maybe doing a gala fundraiser. It all depends on what that star is trying to promote.

Most days it is the same type format. Fashion, make up, cooking, and current events. You can watch and see it all. Also they are targeting it to women twenty five to forty five with two point three kids. The kind of young woman who is the typical housewife.

Next we all clean up after the show and have a meeting about what were doing the next day.

Then after that I have to chase ambulances. Which means I go after all the news that goes on in Calgary. That means fires,murders,bodies found in the river,stabbings,and any official opening or ceremony that happens.

Is it dull? Some days it is. The busy days are not the best days. They usually involve really bad things that happen to people in the city. Yes the busy days are when all hell breaks loose and we as camera persons have to go cover it. Floods,hail,car accidents.

So is it exciting? Yes. But it keeps the memories with you for a long while. I drive by places remember events that have happened there. It's really crazy I know but these events stick with you.

So that's about it and my job. It always is portrayed more exciting than it actually is.

That's it.

Ciao for Now