This is an interesting question that was brought up last week. Can old flings or girl/boy friends come around again and things work out the second time around? Well I guess we should take a look at my example of my old girlfriend and see what we can make of this query.
So as I wrote before everything with my old girlfriend got messed up and complicated and we broke up. But ever since we have been good friends and always had a bond there.The question then arises. Could the second time around then be better?
Well like any relationship you think about it a lot. And if one fails you think about how did it go so wrong and was any of it your fault. Of course these thoughts went through my head when om relationship fell apart with my old girlfriend. You think what did I do or didn't do. Was I paying enough attention to her or not enough. Did I put in the effort that was needed to keep it new and fresh. And maybe the biggest question of all is "Was she the one?".
Of course there is the other side of the coin as well. What happened? Why did she not do this or that? If I have to leave the seat down why can't you leave the seat up? Or look before you sit.Or maybe did she pay enough attention to me or too much and was smothering.
Of course all good questions and now whats the right answer? Well I think that with time comes the answers for every question. You think and rethink about what happened and it has to be better the second time around. As long as you have the right mindset to try and do it right the second time around. Or if you have the maturity to understand what it is that you need to do to make it work this time round.
So now that's as clear as mud. Right? Let us recap.
No if you don't have the maturity or the knowledge of what went wrong in the first place.
Yes if you learned from it and do want it to work so bad you have aches deep down in your heart. You know what needs to be done this time and will work at it harder.
So you see the answer lies with you and how much work and dedication you are willing to put into it. If your not wiling to put everything into it you have then don't waste her or your time.
I guess that's all for friendly advice.
Ciao for now
So hard to go forward if your head is still stuck in the past. I think "second time around" relationships could work but only if "BOTH" of the people involved knew what they did wrong and actually learned from it. Also have to get over the wrongs done to you during the first run and hidden anger or that would be brought back into the relationship the second time around. Some things you just can't get over like cheating. Don't think I would go back to a cheating ex, did enough of that back when I was in high-school.
ReplyDeleteTo me, personally, I think second time around romances would be harder than the first time around.
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