I have been thinking long and hard about a close friend who has been going through a very rough and stressful time right now.
She is usually a strong and vibrant person who can handle anything. And from the outside looks like she has all her shit together. And recently found out she was pregnant and was very happy to share the news with everyone.
Well the worst of all things happened and she started to bleed, and throughout the day eventually lost the poor little life that was growing inside her.
This brings about some questions that have been racing through my head. Yes even I have periods of deep thought and contemplation.
So why is it when you have a very happy event happen in your life, does the opposite reaction have to happen to even out the "ying and yang" in our lives? Why can't happy things happen over and over? It seems like that is very unfair to have to have this balance in our lives. We deserve more like %80 positive and %20 negative so we can feel like were getting ahead in life.
Is this too much to ask? Is that greedy of us to want to have more positive than negative? Does this have to do with some "Secret" that we don't know about like in the movie with the same title? I don't know about you but I tried to apply the thoughts and ideas in that movie and that didn't help at all. In fact that's when the worst of the stuff in my life happened.(You will have to read way back to older posts to see what that was)
So in this even 50/50,"ying & yang" theory my friend then has to have an amazing bit of good luck coming to her that should last her til she reaches 80 years old. Right? Because one of the worst experiences in our adult lives has to be losing a child.
Which brings me to my last point. I have been trying to think of something to say to her that means that my heart goes out to her and that I understand the pain she is going through. And to express that all needs something more. Something that has a bigger and deeper emphasis on how important it is that she understands I am here along with everyone else to help her through this dark period.
But all I can think of is "sorry". A word that has a simple meaning and doesn't really have much punch or pizazz to it. It is sort of an indifferent word to me that doesn't have the deep meaning that needs to be conveyed. But I guess it has to do for now.
While she is going through this very dark day, I am sure all her friends and family hope she has good health and gets the peace and rest she needs to get through this hard time. I know we are all sending her our best wishes.
Ciao for now
Your words are above...you already wrote them:
ReplyDelete"...my heart goes out to her and that I understand the pain she is going through....I am here along with everyone else to help her through this dark period."
Saying the words is the hard part.
Also, it's not "good or bad" things that happen. Things happen to move us along our path...whatever those things are. In retrospect, this event may be view muched differently than it is now. Yes...it's tragic as we view it. No doubt. But the Universe does not differentiate as we do...whether it's "good or bad." It is an event...that has a purpose...thus far probably unknown.
Hope your friend finds peace & you find the right words to help her. :)
Love, A.